Book Review:

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
by Leil Lowndes

I have struggled with shyness for most of my adult life. Large, noisy parties tie my tongue in knots, and I would rather visit the dentist than pick up a telephone. I especially dislike small talk and have trouble initiating conversation with strangers.

Though God has created me to be quiet and introverted by nature, I cannot let shyness keep me from being a godly, grace-full woman. I'll never be bubbly or exceptionally outgoing, but I have made a resolution to become more friendly and open. I cannot hide myself away in fear.

My friend recommended I read Leil Lowndes' How to Talk to Anyone. This book offers 92 bite-sized communication tips and tricks. The chapters are short and filled with funny anecdotes and scenarios. How to Talk to Anyone is a quick, often entertaining read.

I gleaned a few helpful suggestions from this book, especially from the section entitled "How to Direct Dial Their Hearts" (tips for talking on the phone). Unfortunately, I found most of Leil Lowndes' communication tricks to be artificial and contrived. Many of the suggestions were downright manipulative. As I read her book I often thought, "I don't think I would like to meet this author in real life. I'd be scared she'd try and pull a fast one on me!"

How to Talk to Anyone has armed me with a few new communication tools. However, I prefer to take a more genuine, heartfelt approach. I don't simply want to appear to be interested in the lives of others. I would rather actually become more focused on other people's lives and needs. It's a hard road! We humans are a selfish lot, but I'm praying God will help me take my eyes off myself and my own social fears.

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